Hi, my name is Vaibhavi Goyal, and welcome to Choose Fullness.

I used to be overwhelmed with anxiety every time I faced a big decision. Should I take this job? Move to that city? Apply for this club? I’d find myself caught in analysis paralysis, desperately praying for a neon sign from above that would spell out exactly what God wanted me to do.

The questions consumed me: If God already has my life planned out, why do my choices even matter? Does every person who walks into my life, every opportunity that presents itself, fit perfectly into some divine puzzle I can’t see? And if His plan will prevail no matter what I do, what’s the point of agonizing over these decisions at all?

For the longest time, I approached prayer like a cosmic vending machine. I’d insert my good behavior, add some dedicated quiet time, and expect God to dispense the answers I wanted. When the clarity I craved didn’t come, I’d wonder why I was even bothering to pray if God had already figured everything out anyway. That’s when I realized my entire mindset was backwards.

Prayer isn’t about getting God to understand us better—it’s about us understanding Him. This revelation completely transformed how I approached both my relationship with God and the decisions that once paralyzed me.

I started dedicating thirty minutes each day to intentional time with God, not to present my wish list, but to simply know Him better. Through consistent devotion and scripture study, I began to see patterns in God’s character that no one could have just told me about. I had to discover them myself through relationship.

One of the most impactful resources during this season was devotional The Attributes of God from the Daily Grace Company. Reading through God’s simple and complex traits wasn’t just informative, it was a transformative process. When you shift from trying to read scripture to understand your circumstances to reading it to understand God’s heart, profound changes begin happening in your daily life. But this transformation requires both consistency and patience. There are no shortcuts to knowing someone deeply, and the same is true with God.

You’ve probably heard the saying: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” When I think about my closest influences, I rarely consider God as one of them—let alone my strongest influence. Yet He’s the only person who lives in my heart, who’s always ready to listen, and who offers unconditional forgiveness. If those five people each get about 20% of who you are, then why wouldn’t we want God to claim more than just His share? Through daily devotion, God doesn’t just become one-fifth of who I am—He has the potential to become so much more. And that’s where the real transformation happens.

So how do we know if it’s God’s will? How do we stop wrestling with every decision and learn to trust His guidance? The answer surprised me in its simplicity: we become so much like Him that the right choices become natural. When your character aligns closely with God’s heart, your actions carry less weight because trusting Him becomes effortless.

This isn’t about centering faith around how God can improve our current circumstances. It’s about seeing faith as an invitation to become someone entirely new, someone whose decisions flow naturally from being filled with God’s character. I won’t lie, falling into this kind of change is difficult. It requires surrendering control and trusting in a process you can’t always see. But it’s incredibly rewarding and renewing.

That’s when people start to notice something different about you. They begin to see God reflected in your actions, your words, your very presence. It happens when you stop trying to keep God at that 20% mark and instead allow Him to fill more and more of who you are. Don’t get caught up in whether you’re moving too slowly or too quickly through decisions. Instead, wrap yourself in God’s Word. Draw so close to Him that your personality begins to mirror His. Let Him transform you from the inside out, and you’ll find that your actions—almost without realizing it—become shaped by His character. When that happens, you’ll know you’re on the right path. The timing that once confused you will finally make sense.

I often see people wearing bracelets with “WWJD”—What Would Jesus Do? The answer is simple: HWLF—He Would Love First. That’s all we need to do: love, lean on Him, and find joy in letting Him transform our hearts. Work to let Him in, study His Word, and allow yourself to be filled with His attributes. You are absolutely capable of this transformation.

What if God didn’t just get his 20%? What if we gave Him 30%, then 50%, then more? What would that version of yourself look like? That’s the person I’m becoming, and that’s who I believe we’re all called to be.

So remember—your glass is full. Whether you see it that way is up to you.