Hi, my name is Vaibhavi Goyal, and welcome to Choose Fullness.

Oftentimes, couples like to celebrate certain milestones in their relationships: one-month, six-month, and one-year anniversaries, complete with love letters, gifts, and candlelit dinners. But I’ve always wondered: why don’t we celebrate milestones in our singleness as well?

We live in a society that places so much emphasis on romantic relationships, being single can feel like something we have to get through rather than something worth honoring. But what if we chose to see it differently? What if singleness wasn’t a burdensome waiting room but a season to be celebrated?

For me, this started with a mindset shift. Instead of focusing on what I didn’t have, I started to embrace what I do have—freedom, space, and a chance to grow. Being single isn’t a shortcoming, It’s a season that holds so much potential. It’s a time to find your own contentment without relying on someone else to give it to you.

Maybe you’re celebrating 7,268 days of singleness or maybe it’s been exactly one year since your divorce. Whether you’ve never been in a relationship or just got out of one, you deserve to celebrate yourself. So don’t hesitate to write that love letter to yourself, buy the gift, and take yourself out to dinner. Why is it that fancy dinners and movie dates are seen as things only couples do? You’re just as deserving of those things, and they’re just as meaningful when you do them for yourself.

It can feel weird at first, sitting at a restaurant by yourself or showing up somewhere without anyone else. But the more you do it, the more natural it starts to feel. You realize your own company isn’t something to avoid, it’s something to enjoy and even look forward to. One thing that helped me was getting ready for solo plans like I would if I were meeting a friend. It reminded me that I’m worth the same effort and care and I don’t need an occasion or a plus-one to feel special.

So why don’t we take ourselves out to movie nights or to that overpriced Italian restaurant we’ve always wanted to try? We wait for someone else to do it with, like we’re not enough on our own. But the more you choose to show up for yourself, the more you start to see how worthy you are of being treated well by others, but especially by you.

I often see people avoid this season by jumping into new relationships, but there are other ways of running from singleness. Sometimes, it looks like chasing attention just to feel something or to feel seen. Especially in college, it’s easy to fall into situationships or hookups that aren’t built to last. They fill the time and offer a temporary distraction. But at the end of the day, you’re still avoiding the root of the problem: that you don’t know how to be happy on your own. When we rely on constant validation from others, we lose the chance to build it within ourselves. Over time, that can diminish our confidence and make it harder to advocate for what we need in relationships.

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I used to think it sounded cliché, until I caught myself settling for less. When you’re used to breadcrumbs, you start thinking that’s a full meal. We overlook red flags or accept the bare minimum just to feel chosen. But singleness reminds you that love should feel whole—and that you’re more than capable of giving it to yourself.

This season gives you the space to reset. To tune into what you actually need. What makes you happy? What makes you feel grounded? What do you value? So often in relationships, we lose sight of that because we’re so focused on someone else. Singleness gives you the chance to turn inward, reflect, and realign. And when we’re always looking for our next relationship, we start believing that happiness only exists when we’re being loved by someone else. But no one else can make you feel full if you don’t already know how to feel that way on your own.

Think about how much effort we put into relationships, especially the way people show them off online. Imagine what would happen if we gave ourselves that same kind of love and attention. If we stopped romanticizing others and started romanticizing our own growth. This is the perfect time to check in with yourself. What do I need right now? Who do I want to become? Use this time to be intentional. Journal. Set goals. Lately, I’ve been paying more attention to my screen time, eating more whole foods, and meditating daily. I already feel more energized and less anxious. And when I head back to school in the fall, I know I want to carry these habits with me. This season has reminded me that slowing down and tuning in can make all the difference.

The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other one in your life. If you don’t treat yourself with respect, you’re more likely to accept relationships that fall short. And if you don’t know your worth, you might stick around when someone else isn’t treating you right, just because you’re afraid to be alone. That’s why this season matters. It’s not just about being single. It’s about learning how to value yourself enough to walk away from what’s not meant for you. When you don’t take time to know yourself, you end up settling. You confuse attention for love. You entertain people who aren’t really in it because you don’t believe someone really in it would want you. But they would, and they will.

If singleness feels hard, start small. Write down what you’re thankful for and make a list of things you love about yourself. Create a plan for who you want to be and how to get there. Take yourself on a walk, a dinner, a solo adventure. The more you show up for yourself, the more you realize, you’ve been enough all along.

This season won’t last forever. And when it’s over, I hope you look back and think, “I made the most of that.” That you used it to grow, to ground yourself, and to fall in love with your life—on your own terms. 

Singleness isn’t a transitional phase, It’s not a pause, It’s life right now. It’s a season that deserves joy, presence, and celebration. And while you don’t know how long it will last, you do get to choose how you experience it. For me, this season has been a time to reset. I’ve had the chance to revisit my values, clarify what matters most, and figure out how I want to spend my time. It’s also given me space to reflect on what I want in future relationships, my standards, my boundaries, and how I can show up as a better partner when that time comes.

So remember—your glass is full. Whether you see it that way is up to you.